As usual, LIFE

So it has been almost a full month since I last blogged, and that was not a real blog! Go figure. Life gets so interesting you can't even imagine. Why when we feel that life is good we get surprises that are not so good? And that turn life upside down and make it very stressful. Why is life full of surprises and not all the surprises are ones we want?

Why are all or should I say most of my hocks about life? Does that say something about my life? Or about the life's of my friends and I am vicariously living through them and telling you about it? Either way life is still the same and we all have to deal with it.

I have a friend who is bored. She is looking for something to do, while another would love to slow things down and get out of the many projects she is responsible for. Go figure. Two friends. One extremely busy and one looking to be busy. Each want what the other person has, yet when they really think about it they are happy that they have their lot to deal with and do not want their friends package.

Why when we look at other peoples problems we are able to help them see the blind spots in life that they are missing. It comes so easy for us to see the red warning flags, we are so surprised that they do not see it, yet when it is our life we are blind to the same warning flags and when it is pointed out to us, we are shocked! Can it happen? Are we quicker to judge other people and blind to our own mistakes? Do we even learn from other peoples mistakes so we too wont make them and perfect our life just a bit? I think not. I think we turn an eye on our own errors and need to have someone else point them out to us. And when we are told we are doing wrong, we are defensive. We can't hear it, yet we are quick to point out the mistakes of others.

Why are humans so sensitive about their doings that it is very hard to accept criticism? And on the same note, why is it so easy to give criticism to others? Are we careful when we speak to friends about things that we try to understand what they are going through? Can we really put ourselves in their shoes and walk a mile in the same shoes and do things differently? I think not. I think we would likely do the same if not worse. Each their own. We keep forgetting that our values and beliefs and ethics differ from the next. No matter if you are like twins in other ways.

If someone is having a hard time coping with one aspect of life, but another part of life is going amazing, people wonder how that is possible. If one part is so screwed up why isn't the persons entire life going to hell? Hashem blessed us with multi-tasking. We are able to do more than one thing at a time and therefore we can excel in some and fail in others. But it is not always a failure when things go wrong. It can be a mistake made and now you are correcting the mistake.

So go correct your mistakes and work things out. We are thankful to have our friends help us see things that we tend to be blind towards.

Thank you friends!