I am starting to notice things about what we do more and more and it doesn't sit well with me. There are a lot of things that we do, that just simply put, are wrong, and we should correct them. We are not better people, but we really should be better. We think we are, but our actions say differently!

I am driving around town and I notice the car flying by the stop sign, and halfway into the intersection when he needs to stop. I slow down even though I do have the right of way, but I don't want to get hit by the driver who feels that he has the right of way and is in control of things. I drive by the car and I notice his black Yarmulka on his head and I feel disgust.

The sign says no turns on red, but the driver decides that he is too much of a rush and passes me on my left and then turns right after coming to a rolling stop. I looked up and noticed the Tefilas Haderech hanging from his mirror.

I am waiting to pull out of a parking spot, but can't because a car had just pulled up right in front of me and instead of going an extra car space, decided it was okay for him to double park and block other drivers from leaving the driveway. I already knew there would be a yarmulka there.

The car that sped down the small street and blew a stop sign was on the phone wearing a yarmulka.

The driver that pulled out of the driveway and decided her only priority was to make sure she wasn't going to get hit looked only one way while she sped up out of the stores driveway and to make a turn...Yes I noticed the snood as I jumped out of her way before I got hit. Apparently she was making sure that she wouldn't get hit and not concerned whom she hit.

We are not better. We should be. Laws are there to protect us and for us to obey. You can't complain about the person who broke the law and nothing is being done, when in reality YOU also break the law but don't want anything done to you! It works both ways! You can't have the police working to protect you from others and when one of you commit a crime, they should look the other way!

What happens if the next accident is a friend of yours? What happens when it is TWO of you who are involved in an accident, do you want everything to be looked away? Do you want the man who skips the traffic light to continue doing so without a penalty? Do you want the person who double parked his car so the ambulance couldn't get out to continue to do so? When it comes to directly affect you, then oh then is it different? Why? Are you going to change? Are you not going to allow your van full of young kids to continue to bop around the car without a seat belt, but comment on how the goy over there has so many people in his car that it is illegal? But you forget the day you double buckled to save your friend the trip. You forget when it applies to your life that you are different and the world revolves around what you want.

Wake up. It doesn't. There are rules and regulations. There are laws. We must apply, even you as you associate yourself in the we factor. Obey the laws and then only then when you practice can you criticize the next. So the next time you are complaining about the driver...Make sure to double check and take note, how many of your issues are really towards the hat/snood/yarmulka/beard/shaitel person and how many are towards the driver that is not amongst us.