Ex-dates

What do you do about ex-dates? Are you allowed to talk about them? To keep up to date about them or totally forget that you went out with the guy/girl and forget the name?
Just recently a friend called me up and told me she was with a few couples and my ex-date's name came up....everyone there seem to know him, except for her. She just knew the name. She was surprised that everyone there knew him and wanted to know how they all knew him...but she couldn't ask..because she didn't want to say how she knew him. Now what would have happened if I was there?
Am I allowed to ask about his well being? Ask about his wife? His life? Or do I just forget that time period of my life and make believe I do not know him? And what happens if I meet him at a wedding? Do I ignore him or go over and say hi? What is the proper procedure for this? Why when I asked about him to friends..they want to know why I am asking? SHeesh, I am NOT allowed to see if people are okay? I mean, all I am asking is what has he done with himself over these past x amount of years that is all. No I am not interested in rekindling what may or may not have been there.
Why are people so touchy about this topic? Big deal! So you went out on a few dates, you might have gotten burnt, or been the burner, but such is life. This is part of the dating process. Not all of us are destined to marry the first person we date! So since we are not, why aren't we allowed to talk about once in a while? Why are there many who walk on egg shells when an ex-date gets engaged...or married, or has a kid? He/she is entitled too and that person was not for you, so big deal? Be happy!
But there are those people who just talk about ex-dates in front of current dates and that is bad. Why do other people feel it is necessary to talk about your previous dates with a current date? Explain that to me? Are they comparing ex-date to current date? Are they trying to scare of current date by saying ex-date was better?
So there has got to be a balance.
Mentioning exdates in front of new dates are bad, but you are allowed to talk about exdates...as long as it is YOU who inititated it and know when to stop asking!





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