Life Sucks...or does it

Came to the conclusion that life sucks. All life sucks. No one lives in the perfect world. Everyone has issues. Everyone has things going on in their life that they hate and it bothers them so much yet there isn't anything they can do about it except cry. Of course you have the saying "If you take everyone's troubles and put them together, you would pick out your own" Silly people. Of course you would pick your own troubles, why would you want someone else's? Why would you want someone else's life which is not any better than yours?

Have you read the Yated lately? Have you read the ads for collecting? Have you gotten your fair share of tzedaka letters begging you for money? Each one has their own heart wrenching story about some horrible life story that you cannot believe is true. Of course it is true, but with each letter you open, with each ad you read, it is worse and worse. Almost like they are trying to out do one another, and see who has the most heart wrenching tear jerking letter/ad and which will make the person write a bigger check.

But on personal level, life is really hard. It is not easy. They did not teach me about this in school. They did not tell me what real life is all about. That this is really what happens to our parents. That this is the way of life and what you have is what you need to work on. I was sheltered growing up. Always thought that this would never happen to me. That was never going to happen. I knew better, I was so naive. I grew up quickly. I met lots of people and I feel their pain. Some I can understand, some, I just listen and hope I am saying the right things. Again, I do not want their problems.

I cry at night thinking of what is going on with my friends. I get depressed when I feel helpless about what is going on and there is nothing for me to do. I feel their pain. I wish I can make everything all better, yet, there is not much that can be done except cry with them. Crying does not help. But it does heal the heart. I have friends going through all sorts of things. I cry for those who chose things based on their emotional feelings and too young to see ahead, too young to see beyond plain emotions. They are blinded by emotions and can't see past that. I fear for the time when the emotions and the love that is there will die down and what they are left is what I have seen today. I hope that day never comes.

I cry for the friend who is hurting inside. Who has no one to talk to because each one of us is unique. I try to understand and figure out if there was clues or what is the best solution for the problem, but I am not in that situation, so I cannot know. I fear that the love is still blinding and one day it too will simmer down and then there will be bigger issues. I fear that this friend is naive and doesn't see it, or worse, doesn't want to see it. Doesn't want to face reality just yet and wants to live and love miserably, and hopes to survive.

I cry for the friend who wants and desires but cannot seem to have. It is beyond their reach for now. They strive they try they feel the pain. They cry themselves. They get hurt. They yearn. They love, they try and try and try. They do not want to give up but sometimes they need a break. Even though they do not want a break.

I cry for the ones who are confused in life and do not know what to do. I try to understand what is confusing them and try to explain to them why it is not confusion but the confusion is within and therefore it is harder to explain or for me to grasp. I feel that they are lost and roaming in one part of their life and therefore they take it out in another part.

But is life really that bad? Is it true that no one is happy? That life is crappy and lousy and that we just need to accept it?

Can't we take a step back from our life and look at the over view and focus on the positive side of it? Health? Family? Parnasah? Smart? Etc etc etc. Can't we forget the negative side that makes us depressed and focus on the good things. Try to find positive things in your life and say that is why we are here. That is why life does not suck. NO!! It is NOT true. Not everyone's life is lousy! Not everyone feels that their life is horrible. Not everyone feels that there is no purpose and that there is only bad out there.

I am sure that if time was taken, each and every one of us can come up with positive things in our life. We can figure out that life is not really that bad and that yes there are things in our life that just makes it more complicated. We need to stop looking at others and work with what we have. We have our own good and bad. Make a list of the good things. Post it on the fridge, or keep a copy near your computer or wherever you are most often and focus on what is really important. Try to fix the sad issues. Try to fix the issues that complicated, but reality is you must focus on the good and positive side as well. Don't neglect the good for the bad stuff. Everything has good and bad. The opposite of good is bad. If things cannot be fixed, then work on how to make it better or more comfortable or eliminate it.

Remember, life does not suck! Life is good and happy!